Mommy Solocation

It’s amazing what a little sunshine, water lapping against the shore, and the smell of fish mixed with gasoline from boat motors will do to your psyche. When I got on the plane to attend my sister’s wedding, I felt excitement for her, but also excitement for me as I was venturing on a Mommy Solocation. I didn’t really have any responsibilities except to show up. And at the last minute I was asked to emcee a “getting to know the new fam” event for the pre-wedding festivities. That was seriously lots of fun! So glad my sis found something for me to do. 

There was lots of golfing involved. In fact, in the one week, I’m pretty sure I’ve golfed more than in the previous twenty years combined. Maybe not quite, but certainly more than I’ve ever golfed in one week. And my drive is amazing! When’s my next tee time? I’m hooked.

Speaking of hooked. Have you ever tried Mike’s Hard Lemonade? That’s all I’m saying about that.

After the wedding in Minneapolis, which was wonderful by the way, I headed even further North to Gull Lake in Brainerd, MN. This was the lake where I reluctantly vacationed almost every year from the time I was about 10 years old. As soon as I stepped out of the car I smelled it. Fish! Lake! Gas from boat motors! Seaweed! Ahhhh I inhaled deeply and felt at peace. 

Peace is so what I’ve been looking for lately. My life has felt so topsy turvy for the past several months years. I desperately needed some time to get some real clarity of thought and this was just the place that was going to help. I unplugged. Turned off the phone. Didn’t even use my computer one time. I resisted the urge to even write. It was just a time of calm and peace. My dad and Carolyn were there, but it was completely stress free. We golfed. We fished. We read. We played games. We hung out. We ate wings and drank Mike’s Lemonade. 

After a week being gone, I was ready to get home. Before I left I felt like I was just stumbling through life from one thing to another. But now, I feel clear. It was like a dose of Neosynepherine for my brain. 

I began this morning writing out my to-do list. Before I left I couldn’t even bring myself to think about a to-do list. I don’t know why, but it was just too difficult to even focus on making a list. This morning, I wrote the list, and it felt good! No. It felt GREAT! 

Oftentimes I will feel like I don’t have time to take time away. But what I’ve discovered is that the time away creates more productive time when I return. So far today I’ve sketched the new book cover and consulted with my cover designer, wrote up a contract, did some brainstorming for a new project, planning to meet up with a couple of friends, took a kid to work, fed the dogs (that wasn’t on my to-do list, but I’ll put it on the ta-dah list at the end of my day) and wrote a couple of thank you notes. I also got to spend time playing with Jordyn (the best 4 yo granddaughter on the planet). 

She was so cute. She came into my room. I looked at my to-do list and told her that I was busy working. She said she understood, then started to whisper to me instead of talking in a regular voice. It was enough to make me stop what I was doing for a while and just spend time with her. The cool thing about the to-do list today was that I didn’t feel the pressure to perform that I felt before my solocation. It’s a list of things to do. Not a list of life sucking vampire words. They have no power, except the power I give them. And I choose to give them the power to keep me on task, but also the power to release me to do those really important things like shuffle cards with a 4 year old.

If you’re feeling sluggish, like you’ve lost your way, or in desperate need of clarity – go golfing, raise your bottle of Mike’s, get a little fish smell under your nails and watch someone get married. Worked for me!


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